Oswald Chambers, in Receiving Yourself in the Fires of Sorrow, states that “sorrow either gives me to myself or it destroys me.” What he means is that sorrow can remove shallowness but not necessarily make someone a better person. Success, he says, cannot make you a better person for it leads to pride. So, are we to welcome sorrow? No. But we can welcome what God can do in us as we work through the fires of sorrow. We can reaffirm and grow in our relationship with Him, find new strength and purpose, and what Chambers calls “nourishment for others,” that is, caring for others who have been destroyed by sorrow.